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How to Survive a Heartbreak

April 20, 2016

So you have just had your heart broken. Ouch! It hurts bad, very bad. It feels like you will never recover from that, ever, right?
You don’t want to trust another love in your life for as long as you live, right? You just want to shut yourself in your room and never come out these are normal emotions one goes through.
 "Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right person comes along." Famous quote by Nicholas spark to realize you that it is not that difficult to move on...
After a breakup, you may have to face certain truths about your relationship and reconfigure your future to figure out what your next move is going to be. These tasks can be overwhelming, leading to stress and anxiety, both of which are unhealthy. Instead, take it one day at a time and rely on the support of your friends and family. 
Just distract your mind. Thinking constantly about your affair and what went wrong will only lead you to depression. Try to keep the mind distracted. It could either be through work, spending time with family or indulging in other thoughts or activities.
A breakup can fill you with many negative emotions, ranging from anger and hurt to confusion and despair. Instead of wallowing in negativity, use these emotions to fuel your exercise, which will trigger endorphins and give you a happy high. You will be surprised how much energy rage can give you.
Stay away from the places you used to go to and don't listen to "your love songs." Listen to songs about surviving and feeling strong.


Don't Be Alone. Everyone you know - even children from the ages of 14 and up know of heartbreak. You can't hurtle yourself through this phase. Find friends you can trust with your most intimate thoughts and talk. If you can't get to open up with them, write everything down, no matter how bad it reads - it'll feel good. Your goal is clarity, not a sonnet.
Talk to someone. Talk about it to someone you trust, man or woman. It doesn’t matter. Women will be emotionally supportive and will not stop talking about it unless you do, while men will try their best to distract you and put your mind off it. So choose your shoulder accordingly. But talking will help. Once you get out those feelings out in the open, you will feel lighter.
Have fun.Just because you have had a breakup, doesn’t mean you have to turn into an introvert. Continue to make plans with your friends. Go to movies, clubs, parks, whatever it is that you were doing before. Try new cuisines, travel, just get out and do things that make you happy. And, stop watching sad movies, and listening to sad songs. It will only make you feel crappier.
Get back into the game.You’ve mourned for weeks, months, a year, even. Enough. She has moved on, so should you. There is absolutely no point in holding on to her memories. She will be a part of your life, yes, but that doesn’t mean you stop living. Ask your friends to set you up. Or if your friends are no good, get out and start looking for her yourself. Join a salsa class, or a trekking club, or a drama group. Basically any community that attracts a good mix of men and women.
 Self-Help Books Help. However philosophical or feminine this may sound, reading self-help books is a known remedy to mend a broken heart. Do some soul-searching and recognize the powers of self-healing.
Whether it is a marriage that did not work out or a relationship with the girlfriend, heartbreakcan be the most traumatic of experiences for any anyone. However, it is you who can change the situation and restore the balance in your life.
Of course, there are those extreme moments in your day when you feel you just cannot handle it, when you really want to call her up at the middle of the night. But, those moments pass, and everything is okay, once again. 
Alcohol may seem like the best way to forget your worries for a little while, but it can actually depress you more. It also lowers your inhibitions, making you more likely to contact your ex, and is packed with empty calories, which are the last thing you need if you’re going to get back in shape.
Most people tend to rebound after a breakup, either hooking up with or dating a new person in the hopes of getting over their ex. While a rebound may make you feel better for a short while, it is not likely to last, since you are still healing and the relationship may not match the person that you grow into once you have moved on completely from the last relationship. 
Instead of thinking about how to get them back, start thinking about how you are going to get better. Do things that make you happy, like soaking in the tub, listening to music or going on a shopping spree. Pamper yourself!
Instead of stuffing your face with ice cream and other junk foods, start taking care of yourself. Putting on weight and breaking out will only make you feel worse, so start eating healthier and adopt other healthy habits. Apart from feeling better, you will also look better, giving your self-confidence a much-needed boost. Take care of yourself!
Let Go. Sometimes it helps to let things and people go. It just allows you to be self-reflexive and emotionally less dependent on others.
These are just some of the steps you may follow to find your way to develop emotional detachment. However, if you follow these, you are likely to be able to let go of emotional entanglements in an easier and stronger manner.

Lastly, I would like say, with this quote may be you understand better.
 "I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I AM BETTER THAN THAT...Goodbye."
I hope that you understood the meaning. Don’t be depressed. Finally, you are single. Enjoy the life, enjoy the way you are.

 

 

 

 

 

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